Hello, I’m bringing the dads series back and in my hot seat this month is Neil from One Dad’s View.
In this chat he discusses crushed fingers, advises to never be honest with a hormonal woman and how he’s been reaching for the stars since becoming a dad…
- How did you feel during your wife’s pregnancy?
I think I spent a lot of it in a bit of a daze. I’d wanted to be a Dad for so long and when it finally happened I was kind of in awe about the whole thing. I loved seeing my wife’s bump grow and feeling the baby kick was simply amazing!
- How did you feel during her labour?
I felt a bit hopeless to be honest. My wife went with gas and air and was in her own world most of the time. At the start it was funny as the pain hadn’t kicked in but the gas had and she was giggling and babbling a bit. But then it wasn’t nice seeing her in so much discomfort and not being able to do anything about it. I also wish I’d taken my ring off my finger as my hand was being crushed towards the end. Worst, pain, ever…..
- How did you find the early days with your newborn?
I loved every moment of it and took to it all straightaway. But, it was stressful at times mostly around breastfeeding and adapting to our new life. Having to leave them both on the first evening in hospital was horrible too.
- What would you change about your wife during pregnancy/labour and the early days of your daughter?
I would give her more self confidence and lower her anxiety. She agonised over breastfeeding and the support she was given wasn’t exactly “supportive”. Our daughter struggled to latch on and in the end she managed to express for a few weeks before we switched to formula. I know she’ll always wonder if she made the right choices. Oh and if I could go back in time I’d arrange for our trip to Portugal to be a couple of weeks sooner so my wife wouldn’t have been struck down with quite as bad swollen feet and uncomfortable sitting feeling.
- What were your main concerns before you became a parent?
My main concern was, whilst wanting to be a Dad, letting go of the life we had. We’d got used to being able to do what we wanted when we wanted. It’s something I still struggle a little bit with now, over 6 years later.
- How has parenthood changed you?
It’s undoubtedly changed me for the better. I never knew how much love you could feel for your child and it hit me like a sledgehammer. My Daughter has made me happier than I’ve ever been and she makes me want to reach for the stars and make her proud.
- What did you think of your wifes body during her pregnancy?
I loved seeing the changes my wife went through. It’s true what people say about the glowing phase. Although I did make her cry when offering honest critique on some maternity wear. I blame her hormones……
- Did you support your wife in pregnancy- ie; stop drinking or eating things that ‘aren’t allowed’?
I’ll be honest here and say, from memory, not really. It didn’t come up in conversation as an issue. What I did do though was one of the first nights we were home after our daughter arrived I made her a tea with all the things she hadn’t been allowed – red wine, brie, cured meats and pate! That seemed to go down very well.
- Was there one thing that you were always in trouble for?
I asked my wife this and she said “nothing that I can think of”. Although now she has her thinking face on so I may have to get back to you on that one….Oh, one thing I can think of was, when she went into labour it was early in the morning and in my sleepy state I suggested trying to go back to sleep for a little while. I don’t think that went down well.
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